Get Over It!

You guys finally broke it off! He broke up with you or she broke up with you. Point is its over and you haven't gotten over it. Maybe you don't even know how to. No worries, Mercy to the rescue!  

So for starters, you have to ask yourself. 'Am I really over ......?' If your answer is 'yes' then;

Allow yourself to grieve. You are human and you were hurt. GRIEVE! You can cry as much as you want.

Having been totally sure that you want to move on, know for a fact that you my darling are allowed to grieve the loss of your former relationship. Yeah! You can cry, throw stuffs or punch stuffs just to get that relief. Let down the waterworks.

Crying is a physiological response that can get the toxic biochemical substances out of your body.

Reason why you get that relief after crying. 

Do not stay in touch with your old flame. You just got out of your relationship and you want to move on, picking up the phone to call them is most definitely not a good idea. You broke things off for a reason, chances are your ex doesn't want to hear from you. So trying to talk to them right after the break up is not a good idea. You might end up getting verbally abused! Follow the No Contact Rule, do not make contact with your ex unless absolutely important. For instance, you need to return an office work piece he forgot at yours. Not to contact him cuz you 'thought' you missed his call. Until you're totally over him can you break the no contact rule.

Get your ex off that pedestal. Do not give them all the credit. If they were perfect y'all should still be together right now. 
Bad times! Whenever you're tempted to think about your ex; that time y'all visited that cute new restaurant or the first time you kissed. Knock that thought out of your head with bad thoughts of when y'all were together. The arguments that never ended well, the times he hit you, the times she decided to starve you sexually or with food, his snoring or horrible eating habit. You'll snap out of gooey thoughts like you have just been dunked in a cold pool. 
Take the bold of step and tell it yourself. It has been tested that telling yourself and your closest friends or family member something you really want to believe, the brain starts to register it as true. But only if a part of you believes it too. Your girlfriends ask how you feel after you guys ended things, hit them with 'oh me, well I'm moving on, ain't nothing holding me back' that's the spirit yo! But do not lie, if it still hurts like crazy tell your girlfriends.

Absolutely do not retort to drugs, alcohol or become food/junk crazed! You'll just end up in rehab, with diabetes or fighting obesity along side nursing a broken heart. While your ex ends up with a georgeous model. 
If you're 100% sure the break up is for the best, never agree to hooking up with your ex until you are completely over them. Even if it's just for a drink. Politely decline and tell them another time.
Now that you're not in a relationship, take the time to explore your independence. You want to go see that movie that movie he thinks is a 'chick flick' go see it! Go to the spa. Try out that new restaurant that sells lobster he's allergic to but you happen to love!

Make yourself feel good. Change your wardrobe, eat healthy, change your cut. Exercise regularly! Through research it has been found that staying active stimulates brain chemicals and increases serotonin, which advances the growth of nerve cells and causes relaxation of the body at large. So why don't you take a long walk or get on a bicycle or go for a swim. 

Hang out with your friends. One of the things that come with being in a serious relationship is that you hang with your friends less and less till it becomes almost non existent. Now that you're no longer in a relationship, why don't you make it up to them. But you should realize you're not just doing it for them, you're doing it for yourself too. 
Capitalize on your 'freedom'. All those things you never did when you were with your ex, well do them now! Take that trip to Las Vegas, that book you kept posting; read it now or (if you have no job😂)you could just sit your ass down and lazy around.
Work on yourself! If your relationship came to an end, it's probably because of something you did or something you didn't do. Or your ex was just a ******. So take time out to work on what you feel might have caused the break up. Or just work on yourself to be a better human. 
Now that you're almost over your ex, why don't you revisit that crush you had once upon a time. Test the waters if you're as whole as you thought. 
If it works out and you're ready to be out there again then you can hook up with someone you've taken time to be sure about. 
You think you're over your ex? If yes, pick up the phone and send a quick text to your ex. Ask how they've been and end it with an 'I just texted to see how you are'. If they reach out back and want to hang out, so long as you're 100% sure that you're completely over them go. Have fun, you were most likely friends before you hit things up. Have a normal convo, if they ask if you're with someone now, if you are, say yes. If they volunteer the info that they have someone, let them know how happy you are for them. Then wish them luck. Do not hang with them for too long. You're only human.

I hope this piece was really helpful to someone out there.